Episode of My First Million with Sam Parr and Shaan Puri.
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Kind: captions Language: en like it’s like Michael Jordan and then you go down to BJ Armstrong it’s like oh I’ve had but much times about Tony Robbins how great he is and blah blah blah like him a lot I got a lot of value out of going to his workshop it was all with you and I bet well because it freaked me out yeah and a lot of people get freaked out of people’s preconception is just this is like a cult this guy’s a snake oil salesman or whatever yeah like what am I getting myself into and I gotta admit like when I went there I was like okay cool I’m going but I’m not doing any of that dancing I’m just uh I’m just here for the information I’m gonna sit down I’ll be quiet I’m not gonna yell not gonna hug I’m not gonna dance and he sat separately so you wouldn’t be embarrassed if you do one with my brother-in-law and we just agreed beforehand we’re like you know we might end up doing the dancing so you sit on that side of the room I’m sitting on this side of the room and let’s see if we didn’t see each other except for at the end of the night when the event would end each day and we would get back together but anyways by you know our one I’m dancing and doing all the good stuff too but anyways it was a lot of value and you know it cost me like a thousand bucks to go do this thing I thought a tremendous and then in the thing like he up smells just like this guy does right so he’s like you know one of the first kind of I don’t know coaches lifestyle coaches business coaches out there and he’s been doing this for 40 years now so he went from audio tapes to books to infomercials now the internet like whatever the channel was he wrote it and was like I’m the business coach I’m the lifestyle coach and you know I got a lot of value and at one point he upsells his business mastery class or his business mastery thing is like okay if you like this if you like how you’re feeling right now and right after he makes you feel great he’s like you know that table over there is for anybody who wants to grow their business it’s ten thousand dollars you spent five days with me and if you don’t get a million dollars of value from this thing I will give you all your money back and in the moment I was like dude I got a million dollars of value today you know of course I would do that so I didn’t actually sign up for it but our buddy see him it did and went to he did it so I believe so and so you know sorry see if I got that wrong but I’m pretty sure he told me he did and I have several friends who actually did it as well and they said they’re like yeah it’s great and if you have a business that’s doing you know if you have a business your size right your business is worth tens of millions of dollars if you can get a sort of 2 percent 3 percent 5 percent lift yeah in your business just through improving your own psychology your own enthusiasm your own tactics it’s obviously paid itself off right so how does the infrastructure of this work like I’m looking at it now does you just Tony Robbins literally have to be at all the things no so well he does his live events yes so he’s the Traveling Salesman that does the live events and he probably does I don’t know I’m gonna get it wrong but like let’s call it 20 to 40 live events a year a lot that’s a lot you know every week he every week or two he’s somewhere and then he has his sort of like army of like coaches that are trained under him bit by the way they all seemed garbage and so he has this you know the people who are the actual coaches I will call you and do all this other stuff with you they are you know like there’s like a fleet of them I don’t know a hundred and hundred people that and just need a common structure is garbage those people are garbage when I met them I was not impressed in fact on the day’s so tell her I’m gonna do this for 40 years to the point where he’s been public speaking on stages hype and crowds up for like 40 years right so he can’t actually do two days back-to-back so he does date one and it goes from 8 a.m. till 1 a.m. and there’s no breaks yeah you can go to the bathroom but you were missing the action when you go it has just talked and the whole time he’s on stage he’s talking and he’s got 10,000 people in an audience I’ve been twice now I should have been three times I just did that so the first time I was just experiencing it the second times I was observing it because I took a fleet of friends I bought tickets for my family and friends I was like this is the best gift I can give you and they loved it most of them and so anyways he holds people’s attention for like 14 hours straight which is incredible you know you can’t most people can’t you know listen to a six-minute YouTube video and have their attention held but then the second day it’s not him on stage because his vocal cords are shredded so he can’t speak the next day and this like his number two comes up and this guy’s a good public speaker but he’s not like it’s like Michael Jordan and then you go down to BJ Armstrong and it’s like now I came here to Michael Jordan and so literally this guy just he says stuff and then he tees up a video of Tony talking ten years ago when he used to do this like he used to do all four days himself oh my god he queues up the the video of telling me and you sit there and you’re watching youtube videos with ten two thousand other people and this guy is just moderating it it’s like this bizarre experience that’s crazy I didn’t really sell it very well but I’ll tell you this that was probably the best the best money I’ve ever spent on anything self-improvement wise if you add up all the books or anything else it’s not even close maybe I should do it you tell it you should totally do it I took about 20 people so I paid for 20 people’s tickets to go see gran yeah I basically became an affiliate for him I didn’t get paid I just I believed in it so much I paid for 20 other people to go and since then and it’s been four years since then and of them I would say four people were like me where they were like a holy life changed that was the most valuable thing it’s a 4 out of 20 let’s say and then another let’s call it I don’t know 15 were kind of like that was amazing and I talked to him a year later they’re like disappointed in themselves that they didn’t carry it forward they’re like God it was so good and I had so much clarity and I had so much energy but I’m kind of mad at myself I just kind of let it fade from there like I don’t really remember it now I just remember what I felt then and yeah I guess I didn’t really get too much value because I’m not doing any of the things I wanted to do you know after that weekend well and there’s no three or four people that literally left they were like this is way too culty this is pop science I don’t like this I don’t believe this I don’t like how he’s manipulating everybody I’m out and I was like okay that’s the spectrum anyone I know um Alex from calm the founder of calm he hated it and so he just went for a bike ride I think in the middle of one of the days because he was like it’s just too much for me he’s like I don’t I didn’t I didn’t feel good and what was going on and so I left I rode my bike around the city and I had fun during that and what uh what was the number one takeaway for me dude I have a notepad full that I call the Bible because I was like this is the closest thing that I have to religion right it’s like religion and it smelled like God religion is like an operating philosophy for life right that’s what that’s what people use religion for in many ways like you know don’t harm your neighbor bla bla bla like it’s an operating philosophy so this was an operating philosophy so I’ll give you two of the Nuggets right so the first one is the quality of your life is equal to the quality of the emotions you have on a day-to-day basis so what is that mean it’s kind of a mouthful but like we’re both in a good position we’re very privileged or more successful than we ever thought we would be seven years ago probably like the position we’re in now seven years ago us would have been envious at that but your happiness is not like ten times more than it was seven years ago right like you’re probably feeling about the same and the reason why is that you know life is not about you know what you have and what you’ve achieved it’s about who you’ve become and so what most people what most people miss is that if you are doesn’t matter if you’re rich doesn’t matter if your family doesn’t matter if you have a you know if you’re famous if the emotions that you’re feeling on a day-to-day basis are stressed then you have a shitty quality of life if you’re feeling anger or upset then you have a shitty quality of life regardless of everything else and so then the question is how do you figure out how to like change your emotions on a day-to-day basis so you’re feeling good every day regardless of your situation it’s the intent select so he gives you three three you like tool he’s like alright here’s the three ways you can change how you feel the very first thing is your butt is physical so if you change your if you have a radical chains and your physiology calls it which it basically means if you did a bunch of push-ups if you exercised if you ran if you jumped into a cold pool or or why people like taking out hot showers it’s relax the fastest way to change how you feel is to physically change your body in fact Emmett who’s the CEO twitch was telling me the other day or he was kind of talking about this on Twitter people have panic attacks and when you have a panic attacks really uncomfortable feeling and most people panic attacks really want a solution of like how do I not get these and I take medicine and some people take medicine and that’s one way to change your physiology is chemically changing your physiology what most people try to do is like people try to help people think their way out of it they’re like oh just know don’t be so anxious and you need to just relax I’m like as if that can help that’s like best if that was that easy yeah we would all do it and actually what science has shown is that the fastest most effective kind of quick and dirty way to stop a panic attack is to plunge your face into really cold water if you do that right at the start of panic attack it will stop it because your fight-or-flight will kick in it’ll it’ll override that and so one time I one time I accidentally ate brownies at my roommate made and they turn out to be edible brownies and I don’t smoke weed and I hate weed so much like I don’t do any of that and I was like James I’m flipping out he goes yeah I’m sorry those were we brown and I I started having a panic attack and I went and gotten a cold shower and that was the only thing that helps oh nice okay yes so that’s fastest way to change what you feel is your body either through heat cold or getting your heart rate up and exercising and it doesn’t be like go to the gym it can be like if you did ten jumping jacks you will feel different than you did but right before that the second one is focused so what are you going to focus on so you you know where you place your focus is gonna judge how what your brain is what your brain is basically signalling to your body of how to feel so if you’re focused on pain then you’re gonna feel shitty if you focused on how somebody did you wrong how this guy cut you off in traffic you’re gonna get outraged but if you focus on things you’re grateful for if you focus on things are going well if you focus on things that are that you can trust that you can rely on you’ll feel different and then the last one is I think it’s like language so you language your story which is basically the words you use in the story you tell yourself the big the big idea and I recommend this to anybody who’s in business which is the quality of your results is linked to your quality of your decisions and the quality of your decisions is linked to the quality of the internal monologue you have so the conversation you have with yourself ends up dictating the decisions you make which ends up dictating the results you get and that’s kind of what I pulled away from the whole thing and then it’s all a bunch of strategies to do that better I think you just saved me a thousand dollars well you got to get up and dance with the wise it’s gonna sting this is awesome I like this yeah I always hesitate to talk about it cuz it’s like I’m a preachy but no I don’t think it helps some people it’s never preachy when you can make fun of it so like you you do a good job of making fun of something and then you explain what it is so that’s never preachy [Music] you