Episode of My First Million with Sam Parr and Shaan Puri.
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Kind: captions Language: en you know one great quote as always is it are you seeing unrest and protesting and looting where you live I’m saying it because I’m just glued to Twitter and me too you know I’m just scrolling and I can’t believe my eyes and it is it so sad there’s so many different things going on at the same time and then the the shitty part about that to me is that everybody pulls a different meaning away from it so like if you’re bias going in is you know you know if you’re a racist in one way you’re going to look at this and say oh man they’re rooting and they’re looting and rioting and this is awful what are those small business owners do why are they where are they getting their store smashed and then if you’re somebody else and you’re looking at this you’re like dude people are sick of it they’ve hit their breaking point because this has been going on for so long this police brutality and I totally understand what’s going on and then other people are looking at it and they’re sort of like hey what’s like why are these other malicious groups kind of hijacking the movement and just inciting violence and you know antifa or some people believe you know russia china whoever it is who’s dropping these pallets of bricks off trying to bait people into violence and you know some people just trying to make the world burn and so there’s all these things mixed together and I think whoever you are you’re gonna select the evidence that supports your feeling and you’re just gonna get stronger you’re just gonna see more evidence towards your view and it’s gonna make people more divided my friend shared something and it was like four circles and it was like I’m pissed off about the racism in our countries and black lives matter black lives matters has a point I’m pissed off that businesses are getting brewing this is not the right way to do it I’m pissed off as the police because I think most of them are good but a few bad cops ruin [ ] for everyone and then I forget the fourth one and then it was like at the center all the circles had a little bit of everything and like you can be here I was like that’s how I feel I’m angry it it’s sad and so what was the fourth what support circle I don’t know what the fourth one was let’s see it was really great though did you happen to see this go ahead and see that but no that explains like exact see how I feel you know and how many people feel and you know I think it’s really crazy you know there’s a whole bunch of things that you hear you learn from these experiences where you’re like oh you know that is a sort of a nugget of wisdom or a bit of empathy that I didn’t have before and so you know when you see people that are you know one great quote I saw was when you have a thousand good cops and ten bad cops but the good cops don’t police the bad cops then have a thousands and then ten bad cops and you know I believe that and then that sort of applies to my life too like in what anytime I sort of stand by and do nothing well injustice is happening that makes me sort of complicit in my own way right and you know I think about little minor examples of that in my own life and then it was George Floyd’s George George Floyd’s death was murder and the police should be held responsible I think most cops are good but police departments are corrupt and there are some bad cops looting businesses and destroying properties in morale it hurts - cause I empathize and I agree with black five matter protester and believe in then the right to be heard and then right in the middle was like I am here and this is sad right yeah it’s really crazy and I know people don’t listen this podcast to hear like you know talks about socio-economic issues and racism and whatnot but you know this I think affects everybody is very different than anything that’s happened in in my lifetime where you have riots breaking out across the nation all simultaneously and things really do feel like they get a breaking point for many reasons I think also the fact that people were picked up at home for the last three months I don’t think that helps necessarily because that’s a sort of a bunch of a bunch of you know just water boiling over you know at a certain point as well I agree I saw I agree I don’t even love discussing this stuff presents’ think about it a lot and I also tend to like they talk about the positive but let me bring something up that I don’t think I have bring up brought up and I want to hear your opinion so I don’t this doesn’t matter and it doesn’t change I don’t think it should like validate or just not about validate anything I say so like my wife’s black my family’s black I’ll have black children and this was the first time or half parsley black children this was the first time that I was at my house with Sarah my wife and like she broke down she was like I don’t I don’t know hops he’s like I don’t know where I fit in on this because she’s like a successful black woman she’s a guy haven’t had a lot of racist stuff happened to me or if any like I and it was and she’s like but I yeah it was it was it was just a total mind [ ] because I’m like [ ] what am I supposed to how am I supposed to I don’t I didn’t know what to feel I didn’t I was like I don’t I don’t know what to do and it was incredibly exhausting do you you you’re Indian do you consider yourself white or not white what definitely considered was of white and nor does anyone who sees me thinks I’m white but I don’t know like how but I get what you mean in the sense of like in some ways like do you feel that you’re privileged or prejudiced against I think that’s a different way of looking at it and like you know my sister so we I was born in Tulsa Oklahoma which is like you know not the most open-minded and racially friendly place and so my sister when she was in kindergarten you know students would would draw a picture of a pig and then write her name on it and cover the body and brown mud and then they would give it to the teacher and the teacher laughed and my sister who always remembers this like she was I don’t know six years old and she vividly remembers the teacher sort of looking at this and laughing and saying no no no put it away but like being you know involved in it and I know I don’t understand that what’s the pig have to do is that because just like a brown brown dirty in the mud you know that sort of thing and and you know I remember you know when she went to my mom it was like why can’t be we’d be white said the thing where’s like you know asking questions as a kid just trying to understand why am i different what does that mean why do other people think were worse than them that sort of thing I personally never experienced that because I had luckily moved at Oklahoma when I was really young and went to different places where it was it was less so or just got lucky and sort of my experiences around who I was around but I guess I would say like you know when 9/11 happened you know they’re not fun to be a brown guy in are you are you any religion a Muslim no under and they just but I wouldn’t even do yeah I would be Hindu but you know just that’s typically what most of you people are but yeah you know I’m not religious but you know I do grow a beard pretty quick and so like yeah you know like when you go to the airport I don’t think you think about how do I look today whereas I think about that so I’m like look I’m not trying to get hassled for no reason here’s let me show you before I get on this flight or like you know I had friends who like are Muslim who had like key their house keys taken away from them in TSA because it was like this is potentially a dangerous thing and then like this is my apartment how does that make you feel so the fact that you have to shave are you angry or you wait where do you what’s that make you feel like I’m not angry about it you know I I sort of have this opinion that my Bible my personal philosophy if you were gonna boil it down to any one thing is the only thing you have control over is your attitude towards the present moment and so so that’s empowering and disempowering rights disempowering because it’s like [ ] I can’t control anything that’s going on I can’t control how other people feel how they’re gonna act I can’t control the results I’m gonna get in my life but it’s empowering it’s like the one thing I control is my attitude towards the moment so that sort of is a super power because then no matter what the situation is no matter what the moment is I can decide what my attitude about it is going to be so for example when something shitty happens to me someone says something shitty or you know I you know get that extra I sort of hate coming to this room while I go through TSA clearance you know the meaning I put on that is of my choosing and if I put the meaning of it that you know I’m less than I’m being wronged that doesn’t help me it makes me feel like [ ] and so I just decide not to feel that way but I know that like on the grand scheme of things I get off pretty light it’s very different than never feeling safe you know going for a jog in your neighborhood or something like that I think you know there’s levels to it and I haven’t experienced those levels where it would be very very challenging to put a positive meaning on what’s going on yeah it’s uh it’s just a confusing time because you feel so many different emotions and some of them are opposite and I had it like talked to the whole company today which were small let’s say twenty or thirty people and I was like I don’t know what to say other than if you guys like ever feel out of place somewhere like our company we’re gonna we’re gonna make you feel safe like we’ll hire all types of people we like I wasn’t sure if that felt like weak or like like oh like like a barely anything I was like I don’t know what I was like I don’t know how to [ ] handle this other than you’re safe here but uh yeah you know I think that’s the right approach because it’s not about having the answer or the wisdom or the most heartfelt thing and the best speech but like I think it is important if you’re the leader to show up as a decent human being in that moment just say look I understand I’m also feeling this crazy mix of emotions I just want to do my best with this anything you know we’re gonna we’re gonna try to do our best at this I think it goes a long way to just be a decent person and try to be present and visible there versus kind of shying away from it which is what a lot of people do yeah it’s crazy and I have a feeling once I have children my opinions gonna change a lot like or not my opinion but my I think I’ll learn a lot yeah like having black kids or part by kids I think well I’ll maybe I’ll see something that I didn’t really see and one more thing which you know we can cut all this out if people tell us later hey you shouldn’t talked about this on the pot but did you watch The Trevor Noah thing that’s on YouTube or whatever I did not I’m typically not a fan of his I think that a lot of times he says is the wrong take so I I tend to avoid him but I would watch it if you suggest it i-i’m-i’m cuz he I don’t think he’s that funny but I did watch this thing and you know he brings up like what’s going on he’s like yeah a lot of people are looking at what’s going on and saying well this isn’t right either right of course police should not murder citizens that’s wrong but also rioting and looting and destroying things is also not right and what his point was which I think made me better understand what was going on his point was like you got to think about this what is society you know a society is essentially a contract it is an agreement amongst a group of people up here’s what’s right and wrong of how we’re gonna act here’s the behaviors that are tolerated here’s the babes that are not tolerated he goes so what you’re saying is that one side of contract you know if we’re if we go to contract together and you’re just breaching your side of the contract regularly and without recourse and I just see wow this guy just keeps breaching his side of the contract then I also have no no desire or incentive to uphold my side of the contract he goes you’ll see somebody that’s homeless and you know they don’t go and just murder necessarily because because they’re in a bad position they say look these are the rules of the game I’m losing in the current game or I have not been able to sort of get to an advantage position in this game but like I still respect that we’re in a game together and there are rules of this game he goes what you’re seeing now is that a group of people you know black people in America feel like the contract has just been breached over and over and over again where they’re you know unnecessary and unjust violence against us and so now we’re gonna breach the contract - and we’re gonna sort of make it very known what it feels like when the contract is being breached for apparently no reason and it doesn’t seem like a positive thing and so that made me look at you know when somebody is either protesting whether it’s peacefully or not basically when somebody’s rioting and they’re creating a sort of unsafe environment for all it’s sort of I don’t know it sort of explained to me why somebody would behave that way it’s because if you feel like the other parties just turned breached the contract and then there’s no recourse then it’s like I’m gonna terminally breach the contract and and we’ll see we’ll see how it feels and now both sides feel what it’s like when the societal contract gets totally breached I definitely feel the tension I feel it I feel it definitely feels like like almost like the end of the world a little bit it’s like there’s it’s like a small it’s like in the same way having a new puppy is just like a small taste of having a baby it’s like that’s how I feel right now like I’m like if like the world if like everything that I believed in is gonna come to an end it’s gonna take a little a little like this right you know it’s there every sad story there’s also an inspiring story where people are you know waking up the next day and going and cleaning up the city and people standing together and you know I think there’s a lot of really positive things going on - and I think that’s the you know that’s the silver lining or that’s the other side of the coin here where where is progress being made and [Music] [Applause]